How to Find & Be a Great Romantic Partner | Lori Gottlieb
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My guest is Lori Gottlieb, MFT, a psychotherapist and bestselling author who specializes in helping people build strong relationships by first understanding themselves and the stories they’ve internalized about themselves and others. We explore how our parents, wounds and unique strengths—both consciously and unconsciously—influence our partner choices and how we show up in relationships, as well as how to avoid and break free from destructive patterns. We also discuss the impact of texting, social media and dating apps on partnership. Lori shares which signals to follow to become the best romantic partner possible and how to make choices that lead to greater vitality, happiness and fulfillment in all areas of life.
Books
- "The Denial of Death"
- "High Fidelity"
- "The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less, Revised Edition―How Excessive Choice Leads to Anxiety and Regret"
- "The Creative Act: A Way of Being"
Other Resources
- Integrity vs. Despair
- Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: The Workbook
- Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: The Journal
Huberman Lab Episodes Mentioned
People Mentioned
- Viktor Frankl: Austrian neurologist, psychologist
- John & Julie Gottman: relationship scientists, psychologists, authors

About this Guest
Lori Gottlieb
Lori Gottlieb, MFT, is a psychotherapist and bestselling author who specializes in understanding the relationships we have with ourselves and others.
- Website
- Therapy services
- Maybe You Should Talk to Someone (book)
- Other books
- Dear Therapists (podcast)
- Ask the Therapist (The New York Times)
- Dear Therapist (The Atlantic)
- TED talk
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